Parenting and its joy
Seven Steps to be an Efficient Parent
To become a parent is one of the top satisfying practices an individual can own. The most vital thing a blood relation can offer to their children is a feeling of being loved. Just bear in mind that you don't need to be that perfect, for no one is such perfect when parenting matters is concern.
Here are some simple guidelines on trying to be one.
Step 1: Expression of affection and love
A small appreciation, a little encouragement, an approval or just simply smiling, and a gentle cuddle will go a long mode to uplift the self-esteem and confidence of your child. Utter that you love them each day. Offer lots of hugs kisses. Love them without any condition. Don’t forced to be like somebody else that you want them to be and let them know and feel that no matter what, you will always love them perfectly.
Step 2: Praise your child
Prevent the attitude of comparison especially among the siblings. Remember that every child is unique, special, and have their exceptional ability that others may not possess that is why they are called individual. Rejoice with every difference and instill in each child the aspirations to follow their dreams and goals in life. Failure to make this can lead for your child to develop inferiority complex. Tell your child that it is alright to be unusual, and that there is no need for them to be one with the crowd. Bear in mind that your kid is not an annex of you. Teach them what is right and wrong, and let them make their decisions, instead of following and listening to others.
Step 3: Avoiding Criticism
Avoid judging your kid and the friends they prefer to mingle. When your child utters out a harmful words, tell him that such an attitude is improper and suggest options. Avoid saying harsh words to your little ones and as much as remain positive. Be assertive yet still be and evade from making public humiliation. If this happen, take them on the side, and talk to them properly. Show them good samples together with a fine verbal explanation. Always communicate clearly and have the control of your temper. Learn to listen to them and generate an ambiance where they can feel that they can open small or big problems to you.
Step 4: Becoming a Role Model
Children notice almost everything. Being the parent, we are our kid’s initial role model. Focus details to what you will do and say. Site good examples and bring them to places where you are making good deeds, but be sure that you already don’t have any vices to become a real good model. Explain to them reasons of your deeds and let them comprehend with your acts. Explain why such doing is needed, but don’t let them do certain tasks instead ask for some aid from them. The earlier they will learn doing it, the longer and better they will enjoy it.
Step 5: Helping Your Children to Feel Safe
Know how to respect your children privacy. Just like that you would like them to respect your privacy as well. Anything that matters to them that they don’t want to be exposed to others, even to you as parents must be respected, like their room and personal belongings such as diaries and personal letters. Give you child some space to move and decide alone.
Avoid arguing with your spouse in front of your kids. If they are asleep, disagree quietly. Kids may feel fearful and insecure when they hear their parents are wrangling, and children will also learn to fight with each other, just like what they are seeing their parents argue. Demonstrate to them that when individual disagree, they can talk over things peacefully.
Avoid favouritism too. All children wanted to be the favourite one. If children are fighting, don't choose the other over the other one, but instead be neutral and fair.
Step 6: Providing Order
Set limitations like curfews and bed time. Because this is the best way to show that you care and love them, they might hey actually get a sense of being loved and cared about by their parents. They might fight inside of them, but the truth is, they love it being guided and love by their parents.
Giving responsibility by providing them tasks or chores to do, and as a gift for those chores, give them a kind of benefits, like gifts, money or their most awaited request. But there must also be punishment jobs that are not done. Even the youngest of sibling must learn this notion of consequences and rewards.
Step 7: Spending excellent moment with your children
Use a lot of time with your little ones and show them you love them with all yourself. Spend time with every child individually. Practice dividing your time equally with all of your children. Set a time once in a while to go to a park, museum, watch movie together or even just eating outside altogether. Attend their school functions. Do assignments with them. Always remember that your children are grow fast, and before you knew it, they are already on their own. Your boss may not linger that you didn’t attended the meeting, but your kid will always recall that you missed to be there on her school activities.